“Love is handing your heart to someone and taking the risk that they will hand it back because they don’t want it. That’s why it’s such a crushing ache on the inside. We gave away a part of ourselves and it wasn’t wanted.
“Love is a giving away of power. When we love, we give the other person the power in the relationship. They can do what they choose. They can do what they like with our love. They can reject it, then can accept it, they can step on toward us in gratitude and appreciation.
“Love is a giving away. When we love, we put ourselves out there, we expose ourselves, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
“Love is giving up control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two — love and controlling power over the other person — are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all of the desire within us to manipulate the relationship.” (Rob Bell)
To Sum Up.
1) handing your heart to someone and taking the risk that they will hand it back because they don’t want it.
2) a giving away of power
3) a giving away (of ourselves)
4) giving up control
In the surrounding paragraphs, Bell is talking about how God has given us (humans) His heart, risking rejection, giving away His power, giving away Himself, and giving up control. But, when I read it, I thought, if I am to love God, I have to give Him my heart, I have to take the risk, I have to give away my power, I have to give away myself, and I have to give up my control. God can’t love me the way He wants to, the way I really want Him too (despite all my protests!) without my love. And I can’t do it half-heartedly. I have to give away my whole heart, my whole self.